Hitting a Wall?

Parenting When You’re Not OK.

Mom holding her head on the couch while her kids run around

Hey, fellow parents.

Everywhere I look, I see parents hitting a wall.  I see it in our clinic families.  I see it in the parent communities I’m part of online.  I see it in my personal relationships.  I see it in the New York Times.  Depending on the day, I see it in my own living room.  

If this is how you’re feeling, please know that you’re not alone.

And if this is how you’re feeling, please know that we’re brainstorming over here about how we might be able to help.  Ever since I became a parent myself, supporting other parents has become even more of a mission and a priority for me.  I worked with parents for over a decade before having my own kids– and having your own kids really hits it home:  parenting is hard.  It’s amazing, joyful, exhausting, infuriating.  My kids are the lights of my life.  I adore them.  I would do anything for them.  And even though I have decades of training and experience in working with parents to teach research-based parenting strategies, and to teach parents AND kids about emotion regulation, I don’t always show up as a parent in the way I might like– or in the way that I know is most likely to be effective.  That was true pre-pandemic, and it’s even more true now– at this time when we are all stretched thin, when we all are coping with more stressors but less space, less time, less childcare, fewer supports, and fewer opportunities for grounding and connection.

So we’re thinking hard over here about what we can offer as a support to parents in our community during this completely crazy time.  If you have a few minutes to spare, please help us figure out how best to support you by completing a brief survey that will help us narrow down the ideas we are batting around!  Or reply to this email if you have other specific ideas that you want to share.

Thanks in advance for your time and your feedback– and solidarity as we all keep putting one foot in front of another.  I’ll be back with more ideas and information in the next few weeks; in the meantime, please check out a few of the relevant and helpful links below.  And consider joining our free Parenting Through Stressful Times Facebook group for parents— it’s been pretty inactive lately (mostly because I’m also parenting through stressful times!!) but I will be giving that space more attention starting soon, and would love to have you along for the ride.

A few on-topic links I’ve appreciated lately:

Mindful Moment

Why Mindfulness Matters. Let's face it: we all could use a little pause. Hi, Practice families. It has been a WEEK.  My younger son's daycare provider tested positive for COVID last weekend...  news we got on Saturday morning, shortly after both my kids woke up...

What Our Kids Need to Be OK. Applying lessons from pandemic research to help your kids thrive.  Hi, Practice families. Last week, I was walking my younger son to daycare when he suddenly looked behind us, then darted off the sidewalk, hollering "PACE!  PACE!"...

Hitting a Wall? Parenting When You're Not OK. Hey, fellow parents. Everywhere I look, I see parents hitting a wall.  I see it in our clinic families.  I see it in the parent communities I'm part of online.  I see it in my personal relationships.  I see it in the...